empathy

i think of the days when 'moral education' used to be a subject we had to take in primary school. now that i think of it, this is one subject we all need to revise at this point in time. no other day in time have i ever actually given this a thought and realized how important it is. however, some part of me thinks this subject can be highly debated. 

i think of why the world is the way it is, why we are the way we are, and why i am how i am. this is what got me thinking. i think of how i react to things in my day. when I've got company, i'm the most friendly, easy to approach happy person, but when i'm by myself it's like i'm a completely different person, i become sceptical, i get easily pissed off at what people are doing, I change back to my compassionate self when i see people being clumsy or when i can relate to the situation they're in, but little things like when someone walks on their right side instead of left will easily piss me off. i think of why is it that i let these little things get to me and why cant i keep my happy self when i'm the one accompanying me. my personality is very easily affected by people's energy, however, i don't think it's their energy that makes me behave this way but rather because of an emotion i close up on when i'm by myself. empathy. 

the definition that came up when i searched for empathy read- the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. empathy, which is what i felt i lacked when i'm by myself. is it all the dangers and terrifying news in the world that makes me this way or do we just not know how to empathize towards others. none of us actually lack the ability to empathise, be it with your friend, family, animal, a movie character, the environment, these are all proof that we do have the ability in us, yet we fail to use it at the most important time, when we're out there in the world at our most vulnerable. we've learnt how to empathize towards people we know, but the even more important part where we need to be using empathy towards other people we see on our day to day life has never actually been established to us. if you think of it, empathy is essential. i highly stress on the essential part. 

right now the world needs environment protection, human protection, asset protection, so much more. we've all been taught to guard ourselves so much that we close the world off and just observe and pass comments on it. we fail to empathize. forget reality and think of this for a moment, say if we'd grown up being taught to empathize, we'd probably have been very considerate of how our actions affected others, how it affected other beings, and our very own mother nature. maybe we would've been more aware of how we're using our words towards others, we'd have been more considerate of people's feelings, we'd be more accepting, we'd forgive easy, we'd fight less, we'd be more conscious of how we're using energy and resources, maybe the world would've been a better place. but there's no point just visualizing maybes and not acting on it. I wouldn't say i'm the kindest person you'll come across but I try, I think we all should, baby steps towards a kinder version of us, for ourselves.

back to moral education, I think of how things would have been if it existed in our schools, universities and even workplace. nothing strict but a simple reminder every once in a while that brings out the human in us. the world is so messed up right now and so are priorities. it would be nice if there was someone who reminded you that we're human, and it's okay to make mistakes, to take a break, to change our minds, to be kind to ourselves and others, to value emotions, feelings. always on the run, chasing this dream we call ambition, but in reality it's just fear in disguise. so scared of if the world will leave us behind, we try our best to get where we're going, we forget to be alive, to express, to feel, to stop and absorb. the best reminder we can find for this, is our entire sole self. take care of yourself first. 

this writing has been a little all over the place cause my thoughts around this topic is such a massive blur of so many things, and this is me just venting out just a little bit of it, have a beautiful day and thank you for being here